The pain of loving is worth it because what’s life without love?


"This child will kill you," exclaimed the doctor as he told St. John Paul II's mother that she couldn't go on with her pregnancy. But she was willing to sacrifice her life for her son (the future pope and great Saint) because she learned from Jesus that love demands sacrifice and as He gave His life for those He loved because she loved her child she would give/sacrifice it all; even her life for Karol as well. She had already given birth to Olga who only lived 7 hours and miscarried countless other babies and going on with her pregnancy was detrimental to her health. Because she gave birth to the future pope, Emilia suffered horrendous pain from which she eventually died; so much did she suffer that for much of the nine years she was alive after she gave birth, the future pope rarely saw her but rather heard her moan from pain in her bedroom. Having her child brought her great pain as did having Jesus brought great pain to the Virgin Mary but the pain was worth it for both of these holy women because their pain was redemptive and has brought life to countless people.


Simeon exclaimed that a sword would pierce through the heart of the Virgin Mary and at each baptism I remind parents that their children will not only bring them joy but sorrow as well but that at the end their children are worth it because love is worth it! And you need people to love, for you can't love the idea of love. Those who love little suffer little but those who love much suffer much; for loving demands sacrifice. It is out of love that you endure the pain you have been handed in this life and much of that pain comes from your spouse or children or family members but what would your life be without them? Who would you be? Nothing but a lonely being merely existing but not living, you would be nothing without them "but a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal, for If I had the gift of prophecy, and if I understood all of God's secret plans and possessed all knowledge, and if I had such faith that I could move mountains, but didn't love others, I would be nothing. If I gave everything I have to the poor and even sacrificed my body, I could boast about it; but if I didn't love others, I would have gained nothing. Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. Love never fails!" 1 Corinthians 13.


Father Adam Kotas



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